Older women, younger men relationship..serious discussion.!

hi frnds,

nice topic sonpari..........well aaj samaye mein jaise globalisation ho raha hai usse......different tarah ke cultures ka mixture hoo raha ..........pehle hum sirf apne unhi poorane culture mein bandhe rehte the sayad.....aaj kal ki fast life.....mein hum kisi chiz ke liye waqat nahi nikal pate......aur isliye hamare relation mein ye ulat fare ho rahe hai......aaj ki soch ye hai ki jahan bhi apko jis waqat sukun mile usse lapak lo.......ya jo hamare emmotions ki kadra karta hoon ya jisse hamari soch milti hoo usse hum dur na jane de..............waise inssan agar jahan sachi khushi aur sukun mil raha hoon usse ussi ko apnna na chaiye......sach ye hai ki hame life ek bar milti hai aur hum usse jee lena chate hai....zindagi mein kisi se kuch chate hai wo nahi milta aur jisse milta hai usse hum nahi apna pate the...........lekin aaj ka insaan ko ye lagta hai khushi jab bhi mile jis roop mein mile apna loo....

india mein aise relation bahoot jaghe sunne ko mil rahehai.....i think india mein soch badal rahai ......for example mein batana chauga ki aajkal family kisi ki shadi karne jati hai tau ye dua karti hai ki agar larke ya larki kisi ka koipehle relation raha hoon tau wo iss shadi ke baad khatam kar de......thats mean ki log ye manne lage hai ki har insaan chaiye wo larka ho ya larki uski zindagi koi na koi zaroor aaya hoga........jahan pehle larkiyo ke kisi se baat karne pe usse bura kaha jata tha wahi aaj uss chiz ko talented larkiya bana diya........sab waqat ka khel hai.........


finnaly ye kahunga openlly tau nahi accept ho rahe lekin iss ki starting ho gaye hai.


naveen

hmmm .. well I wud say first of all its not right to compare the "other" countries with India .. we are way apart in terms of culture, ethics blah blah blah

Older men n younger women or younger man n older women, it all depends on the individuals, their mutual compatibilty. If they are happy so be it, y the society has to poke their nose in between.

Coming to the topic, y is it not acceptable in indian society. Indian society still believes in so called ethics, which I think is more of a boundation rather than doing good to anyone. BUT, these ethics do help us in maintaining our dignity, modesty as compared to "western culture".

So the only thing is, its gonna take time for India society to acceept this, its better for us to live with it unless it happens or be a rebel.

My view is follow ur heart. Ultimately its u who shud be happy, not the society. U wont set ur house on fire to please the society.

And according to what Gum has said, I disagree with the fact that the women shud be older than men to be able to run the family well. Its been scientifically proven that girls mature at a faster rate than boys, their brains develop much faster. So, a girl 4-5 yrs younger than u is as mature as u r my frnd. Thats the reason generally the bride is suppose to be 4-5 yrs younger than the groom so that they are at the same level.

hmmmm.... everyone's view is accepteable n is in one tone and more over i m also agreed by all...  in today's world... there is so much tension that even a single instance of true happiness is rare to find... a boy wants only that partner which makes him comfortable during any level of tension.In several cases ( of course in India) younger girl  is always like a robot who shake her head to obey her husband whether he is right or wrong.... boy/man always wants to have hold over his family.any rebellious move by his partner may arise doubt over their relation..( woh kehte hain na nayi nayi gadi bhi shuru mein easy nahi chalti...issi liye  new realtions bhi jaldi mature nahi hote agar time ke sath bhi maturity na aaye..to woh rishta nahi majboori ban jaati hai.)  but now a days ,there is change in our society...everyone wants such person who can care for themselves with all their love riping to fruit....in case of younger man  n older woman.. there is level of relaxability n admitting one's fault is not loosing respect n love...the most importance thing in these realtions are good understanding,comfortble n equal participation over serious disussions,mutual decisions

one more thing.....chance of domestic voilence is very very less.. as realtions in my views... a younger man could not beat her  as seen in the opposite case...

and to my closing lines... its all about.. it cant be understood

Kabhi to akal ki baat ki  

Well ... to add here is ... we, Indians, with all the boundations and boundaries ... are still better individuals and have happy families.

Here in UK ... brits are worried as their family cycle is collapsing and it it ultimately effecting the countries economy... wondering how

Well its simple ... higher divorce rate ... higher teen pregnancies ... higher single parents ... higher no. of unemployed ppl.... higher rate of wind and aggressive children.

Now here's a point ... definetely a girl of say 14 getting married to a man of say 38 is going to be a problem ... cos too much of everything is bad ... a balance is needed.

a age gap of max 3-4 yrs is best for a younger girl and older man situation.

... Cheers Chuttki ...!! :wink:

Nice topic. and nice to read the serious comments....

older women and younger man - erlation ship is thou uncommon earlier but now a days this is common. but the relationship result in short term relationship and much suited for live in relationship.

Marriage is still a taboo.

And why LIR is more suited b'cos a man always wishes to have a secure lap to go back home too.

will continue later....