Older women, younger men relationship..serious discussion.!

shukriya shukriya :D

its beautiful to see anybody in love :D

ell ... to add to what you have said Talat ... !!

there are many reasons as to why there are certain traditional definitions of marriage that no matter wt are still in the air in the atmosphere across the globe.

One cant survive alone on love ... love is virtual ... love is a feeling ... very important element of survival but ... love can't make a relationship alone.

things like ... care / commitment / time / etc etc ... come with compromises.

and compromise is the other name of life.

People want to get married ... no matter they break up aur get divorced ... people still marry and re-marry.

why???

well ... you answer!!

the reason that there is the tradition of younger girl and older boy ... which we still follow and in our hearts wish to do the same ( even those who don't) because there are logical reasons for it.

in life there are four stages:
1. childhood
2. teenage
3. the mature age
4 the old age

when we talk about love/ relations/ commitment/ affairs/ traditions ... etc etc ..!! we tend to think of the age we are presently in, and that is the young age. everything seems goody-goody at this age ... everything seems possible.

but think about the time to come (which not many think of) when you will be in a state of doing nothing physically and will need someone to chat around with ... when your brain will once again become like a Childs brain and you'll love to eat candy, while you have no teeth in your mouth. this is the time you need a partner the most ... someone to love you ... some one to care for you. till you finally sleep forever. you need a beautiful loving family.

and this is the time a man need a woman ... strong and beautiful who can take care of him as he wished to sit and read newspaper all day long at this point of time the theory of younger female older male justifies it self the most (though it is applicable at all phases of one life). as females mature faster than man they tend to get older before man. ( scientifically proved) and if the female is already older than the man she will become helpless.

waise who cares of old age any way ... there are old age centres to take care of old ppl ... so whi cares of what our forefathers have said ... or what/ why the traditions have been made ... we need to enjoy rt nw ... we need to have fun rt now.

as long as you are happy ... do what you like.

so if a killer ... goes on killing ppl ... why bother ... he is happy.

so as politicians in India eat Indian economy ... never bother ... everyone in politics is happy.

well ... many have said individualism matters ... we must not bother about the society. well! individuals make the society it is all interrelated.

individual makes the society .... societies make the community ... communities make the locality ... localities make the state ... states make the nation ... and all the nation s together make the world.

the state, the country and the world cant stand if the economy is weak ... economy is established if the individuals are healthy and wealthy. and individuals have to balance their lives ...

health - wealth / love - happiness / work - emotions. and ultimately ...!!

it is the family that counts. if the father and mother don't have healthy relations the child becomes unhealthy.

and now you say ... it has nothing to do with the age. .. these problems can happen with any age groups or ... any pair older man ... or ... older woman!

but look up at the reality shows ... they are so common in the west. and the stats suggest that the older woman younger man relationships are mostly a failure.

a diff of a year or lesser is ok! but for a better family cycle its always advisable to have a younger girl and older boy relationship.

and just to add .... menopause ... does not mean end of sex life ... and this is another reason why girl must be younger as older women have higher risks during child birth. the ideal age to have babies is 22-28 after that there is risk to both mother and child.

now ... u'd say ... science and medicines can reduce the risk etc etc ... but this is again against the natural law of nature.

5-10 ... dimak thikane main hai ... !!! ha ha ha :D aap ka janab!

well Talat ... by ststing politicians and kills i wanted to explain the state of individual happiness.. that you all ahev been talking about.

do what makes you happy!! <--- this!

and the 1 year or less age diss fe digestable in case of older women and younger man ... bur more than 1.5 is just redicelus!!

you are talking of celibrities ... and their lives are not the lifes of common man i did want to state a few celibs too but didn't cos they don't live for living ... they live for publicity.

Like DK said ... any oen in love looks beautiful.  I completely agree.

But life is not as idealistic as you have stated in your post.

we all want life to be perfect but there are 100 things related to everything and when we talk we can at a point of time think of a few things at a time.

well ... religion/cast/cre ed is definitely not a thing to be bothered about ... but you know that how important is cast in our society ... no matter we may shout that ... we are in the 21st century and we must think broder ... its the's the negativism that is prevaling.

and marriage is the very thing that is being affected. Families are being distorted ... there is and unhappy individual in everyone.

And Talat!!

You have said not everyone has to make compromises ... can you think of one person in the world who dosn'e have to make compromises ... even President Bush has to make compromises everyday.

there are so many treditions i wish i could follow ... but i can't cos i'm living in 21st  century and as a matter of fact ... it can't be helped.

Like it was said in rang de basanti ... do type ke log hote hai duniya main ... jo chup chap sab dekhte rahete hai. aur dooser jo apni aawaz buland ker ke koi parivertan late hai.

aur agar aap parivartan nahi la sakte to ... chup chap baith ke tamasha dekho!!



aur main baith ke tamasha dekhti hun.

Relax!!

Yaar..

Itni Tension lene ki kya zarurat hai, aapko kisi se pyar hai ? Usse shaadi karni hai ? Go ahead :arrow:

That's the reason i am holding my tounge !!




could we have Statatics for that or any sort of information from appropriate orgnisation?  i mean we can't take just a few words from one. Prove it!! [/color]


ya somethings have to be followed BUT with some appropriate reason !! [/color]