Older women, younger men relationship..serious discussion.!

Tosha, hoenstly did u gave it a thought why only you are against such relation !! This is not some contest that its defeat or victory !! You are personally against such relationship..well that can be appreciated.....but that does nt make such a thing "wrong" !! Tosha, you know it seems, you are just opposing it coz you want to !! otherwise whatever explanations your giving, if you can think with calm and mature mind, that does nt really make any sense !! Its very childish  

Aur jahan tak "maryaada" aur "sanskriti" ki baat hai..there are many other things which are breaking that !! one example i gave in my last post-  "living-in" relationship i.e. a girl/guy living with a guy/girl without marriage and having physical relations !!!!!!!


Thanks Jeet and Nitesh for your views... and i agree with you !!

to aap kya sochte hai ki India kushal nahi hai... humse poocho jo hum yaha hai hamme pata hai ki india kitna kushal hai... idher to desh barbad hai ... !!miski liye ek naya thread kholna to yaha ke haal sunaungi

Pho-in-ex baba!! and Talat memsahib!!

aap exceptions ke baat ker rahe hai ... ki hazaro relations main koi 2 relations safal ho jaye ... etc

ya jab main kaheti hun ke elder girl unger boy ka relation mostly sucess nahi hota .. to aap kahete hai ki ... problems to her age ke relations main aati hai .. etc... etc...

lakin jab koi theorem banta hai ya koi law banta hai ya koi tremd setup hota hai ... ya kahiye ... ki koi tradetion banta hai ... to .... majority ko dekha jaata hai na ki exceptions ko.

aap sab aapne dil main jaante hai ki aap sab ... khiyalo ke baat ker rahe hai ... aap sab kash main jee rahe hai... aap sab kahe rahe hai ki agar koi aisa mil jaye jo .... etc etc ...!!

lain aap yeh bhool ker rahe hai ki jo aap kahete hai wo hamesha nahi hota ... kabhi kabhi hota hai ...!!

yeh haar jeet ki koi baat nahi ... maine kab kaha ki koi yodh chal raha hai...

saaf se baat hai ... ki agar aap aakh utha ki dekhe to yeh relation jamta hai.

aur aap main se ek ne bahut se ... exampls diye hai... mujeh yeh batate hue kushi ho rahi hai ... ki main aap ki iss baat se sahemat hun ... wo sab galat hai ... pre-mat-relation ... etc sab culture ke hisab se galat hai... bas ek baat ko chod ke .!!

inter cast marriage .... q ki yeh to aam insan ke beech main uucch nich ki baat hai ... yeh chote bade ki baat hai... yaha .. to humilation hota hai... dange fasad hote hai... etc etc

Talat ... things might appear childish to you cos may be i'm saying things lightly ... i'm apposing it personally so are you are for it personally ... you think  about it and list 10 reasons why you are in favour of such relationship.

I'll have to repeat myself cos you have this point of me / my words being childish have been repated ... this relation of elder girl and younger man is in itself very childish ... because ... it mostly comes out of fancy. Just because the women is older dosent make the fact that the relation will be more mature ... !!

If you say this isn't a matter of winning or loosing ... then why don't you agree that i'm rt too :D

agar chill ho gaye to yeh thread band thanda ho jayega .... aur wo hum chate nahi

Very Interesting discussion. kafi waqat se yah sawal mere jahan mai tha... is link per kuch aor discussion bhi hai, same topic per

http://www.yolovers.com/node/89#comment-2315

is topic ko agar samaz ki najar se dekha jaaye, to kaha jayega ki jo bade kah gaye hai wo hi sahi hai aor sabko wo hi man.na chahiye.... magar ajj badalte yug main...her ek cheese badal rahi hai.. zindagi ke mayne, jeene ke mayne, logo ke sath rahne ke mayne, her ek rishta... sab sawarthi hokar apne app main simat kar rah gaya hai...

aor ek hi baat deemag mai atti hai ki jo jahan se mil jaaye le lo...

magar is tarah ke rishte mai kitani der tak ek sath chala ja sakta hai?

Phir yah deemag mai atta hai ki

agar husband/bf bada hai aor wife/gf choti us rishte mai kitni der tak sath chala ja sakta hai?

dono hi sawalo ka jawab.. ajj ke waqat mai nahi pata.. ya jayada se jayada yah kaha ja sakta hai ki yah dono ki UNDERSTANDING per depend karta hai.

Payaar, bhawanaaye apna role nibhati hai... magar sabse bada factore hai Understanding. Respect... Care...bhawanaye..payaar sab Understanding ka hissa hai.

agar dono mai understanding hai.. koi farak nahi padta ki kon bada kon chota hai ajj ke yug main... Physical factor se munh nahi moda ja sakta... magar kitne couples hai jahan husband bada hai magar apni wife se khush nahi... ya wife choti hai magar husband se khush nahi....

Again physical factor bhi her insaan mai different hai, nature ki hisab se hai... magar jahan 92 year man father bana hai (maine kahin pada tha) wahan per 66year old lady bhi mother bani hai (yah bhi kisi news main pada tha).  So physical factor bhi her insaan mai alag hai aor apsi understanding ka hissa hai...

waiting for more comments and feel free to comment on my comments

her ek ne is post main bahoot khul kar bahoot hi acha likha hai. I am happy to see this post here on Yoindia. Jo bhi is post ko pade wo is baare kaya sochta hai, kuch na kuch likh kar jarur jaaye....  Good Job Talat:)

yahi baat sab ker rahe hai ... aur jo nazirya aapka hai wo nazariya sab ka hai ...

pyaar ... mohabbat ... understanding ... etc etc ... zamana badal raha hai ... yeh yug experiments ka hai. aab chahe wo kosi lab main ho ya logo ke zindgi main.

per jo hota aaraha hai sadiyo se horah hai ... aur aaj wo badal raha hai ... bahut tezi se badal raha hai ... minto ke hisab se parivertan ho rahe hai ... accha hai ... bahut accha hai.

kuch 200 saal bahele sabkuch thama thama sa tha ... waqth hole hole chalta tha ... maze main gungunata hua ... accha tha ... bahut accha tha.

aaj waquth bhag raha hai ... khud se jeetne ki kosish ker raha hai ... khud ko hi harane ki kosish ker raha hai.

jo ho raha hai accha ho raha hai ... bahut accha ho raha hai :D

kya kahiye ... kise ki kuch bolne se kuch badal to nahi jayega.
jo horaha hai wo to hoke hi rahega.  

duniya main Gay marriages ho ya ... elder woman aur younger man. aaj ki time pe kuch farak nahi padta.

kal yeh duniya ho na ho kise ko kya farak padta hai ... sab apni zindgi jee rahe hai ... family values ho na ho kya farak padta hai  

koi exception nahi hai ... har kise ke zindgi main kuch na kuch ho aisa hota hi hai jo purani paramparao se hath ke hai. isi liye kahete hai ...

All is well on earth and God is glad in heaven

Boss ka Hukam Sarr aankhon Par..

Agar Baat Love and Internal Feelings aur realistic Understandings Ki ho to fhir Age, Physical factor aour Samaj naam ka koi Factor hi nahi Reh Jaata, Sirf Agar wo sacha pyar ho to.

Aisa Nahi hai Ki puraane Zaamane mein elder woman aur younger man relations Nahi bantey they, bantey they par but unka publicization itna nahi ho paata tha, aaj kal to harr baat media ko pata lagtey hi ek dusre stage par chali jaati hai, aaur sabb ko ek topic mill jaata hai gossips ke liye.

Muhabaat uss ehsaas ka naam hai jisse Bhagwan ne bhi accept kiya hai aaur use bhi kiya hai i think, aaur love ko other words mein ye bhi keh saktein hain ki Less Words and More Understandings... Fhir Jahan aapas mein Understanding ho, Faith ho Wahan aaur koi factor exist hi nahi karta. Chahe wo physical ho ya zamane mein practical hone ka hoo.
 

Regards..